Women deserve more R-E-S-P-E-C-T

by Amelia Gonzales, feature editor

After an exhausting six months of living the single life, I have come to one tremendous conclusion: the majority of men have lost the ability to respect the female gender.

Now, before all my male readers roll their eyes and go on to the next article, just hear me out.

I have been having some of the best times of my life hanging out with all my girlfriends, going anywhere from night clubs, to the movies, or just having a fun day of shopping. Wherever it may be, guys who do come up to us usually do it in a manner that will wind up with a response that they usually do not want to hear. So from a female perspective, I have some advice for my male readers and hopefully I can do it in a manner that they can understand. If there is any chance of “hooking up,” this advice could be some of the best by far.

First, I do have to say to any man hoping to find a serious relationship with a woman who he meets at a nightclub or bar, don’t expect it to go far. Women generally go out to these places just to have fun with the people they went there with. A fun night of dancing and the casual drinking is what most women go to nightclubs for. Now, there are the females who do go out there to meet men, but for long-term relationships this could lead to complete disaster.

Once the flashing lights and the alcohol effects have ended, the true person comes out of the limelight and a huge surprise may be in store. What once seemed attractive now has turned into a night of either laughs or regrets. This portion of the meet-and-greet is usually what keeps either the male or the female from calling the other one ever again. Most men I have met at a nightclub have nothing more to offer me than the constant frustrations of why I ever chose to speak to them in the first place.

The most guys ever really pay attention to at a club or bar is what a girl was wearing, how she was moving, and what she was drinking. The majority of the female population tends to dislike it when they are dancing with their girlfriends and a sweaty pair of lips whisper “what is your name?” in an ear as their hands are glued to the female’s waist, all the while stinking like a mixture of alcohol and sweat.

Grantit some of the attire that women do wear to places such as these usually does call out to men “hey, come buy me a drink,” or better yet, “can I go home with you?”. So, yes, women do bear some blame in getting the attention of extremely lonely men. Still, I wonder how many times this approach really works for them? If it does, and there are no regrets for either party, then great. For the women for who this is perfectly OK, it’s their own prerogative. But these women should remember all of the lovely words that they are labeled with when this type of behavior occurs.

I do realize that there are numerous other places that one could go to meet someone who has better potential to evolve into something great. Even at these places, it seems that majority of guys have serious issues about how to approach a woman. 

I hate watching movies where the man opens up the doors for women, or where they wait longer than the first 24 hours to get a kiss, and, most importantly, ones where people actually go out on real dates. Watching movies like these just led me to believe that most men were gentlemen. I have been told who in real life these men with manners do exist But unfortunately, I have only met those who have the expectations of getting everything handed to them as if though they were the lady, or the expectations of getting in and out, avoiding ever getting to know the real me.

For some reason or another, men still do not comprehend that the easiest way to get a woman to fall for a man or keep the women who have fallen for the men by their side, they must listen. How much more simplistic can one get? All it takes is a little attention on what the woman has to say.

I know I can get a bit carried away, talking for hours without the hint of ever shutting up, but I honesty believe that conversation is the only way to get to know a person. Conversation is the only way people can get to know one another, and without it or with the constant annoyance of someone not listening nothing good could possibly result from this, What gives the person not listening any right to say anything at all with the expectations of being heard themselves?

In general, men have forgotten how most women want to be treated and approach in a way that they think women should be treated. Men should know one thing: if you go in with high expectations and with little concepts of respect, you would get little results with big consequences.