Cheating: A Game that Can't Be Won

Omar Ojeda, staff writer

Cheating: Do You Play the “Game?”

Cheating. What’s your definition? When it comes to the type that deals with adulterous acts of unfaithfulness to one’s significant other, relationships are ruined and people build emotional stress.

I understand that people have their own reasons for cheating. But in reality, there aren’t any justifiable reasons for committing these acts. But like I mentioned, everyone has a different version of cheating. Some say it could be a petty thing, such as holding hands, and some go to the extreme to say that unless sex occurs, it’s not cheating…which is just plain idiotic to me.

No matter how you try to debate, argue, or define it, cheating is cheating…period. It’s wrong, immoral, and puts emotional stress not only on the person you cheated on but also on yourself whether you admit it or not.

A lot of people, mostly guys, like to think of cheating as one big “game,” because in slang terminology, you’re actually “playing” your boyfriend/girlfriend. Well, you might think that’s nice and all, but what a coincidence it’s not funny when you’re the one being played. You reap what you sow.

I’m not going to say that I’m perfect either, because no one is. Yes I have played the “game” myself too and have learned a great deal from it. Now I have a completely different view on it. I first cheated on my second girlfriend, and, at first, it didn’t bother me at all. But as time passed, I felt so horrible that I went up to her one day and apologized for what I did in the past. It was the first time I had spoken to her in five months. We are now great friends, and our friendship is better now than when we were together.

So it’s really never too late to apologize, as long as you are sincere about it. All of my cheating days were done in high school, but you know everyone does it or is at least tempted to do it at one time or another. But to those who can honestly say that they have never cheated on anyone, no matter how much you think they deserved it, I congratulate you on holding back, because that is one the hardest things to do in a relationship. I know relationships come and go, but don’t leave behind burned bridges.

All in all, cheating is the most stupid, childish, hurtful way anyone can end any relationship. No one deserves to be cheated on no matter how much of a jerk, wench, or jack-ass they can be.

Someone will come along that you deserve and deserves you more. Just be yourself, and when you do meet that someone, give effort and make it work, because relationships are so hard to make successful and when it does happen, the feeling doesn’t get any better. Good luck!